First steps to recovery after a relationship with a narcissist

When you just leave your toxic partner, you will experience a myriad of emotions. It can be overwhelming, but a few tips can help you navigate the early stages of grief. The important thing to realize is that you’re out now, and the healing can finally begin. Here are a few things to remember as you begin the journey to your recovery:

  • Allow Yourself to Grieve: It’s normal to be sad after the loss of an intimate relationship. Just because you’re happy to be free from the suffering doesn’t mean you won’t feel sadness at the loss. You will also be a bit disoriented at first, so it’s a great idea to pamper yourself. Watch different kinds of movies, eat a pint of ice cream, cry to your family and friends, and let yourself feel your grief. It’s truly the only way it will clear out of your system. You’ve just come out of a battle, so give yourself a little downtime and a lot of self-love.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a difficult mental disorder to deal with if you’re living with someone who has it. The narcissist doesn’t see that anything is their fault, yet it is their deep-seated insecurity that guides their manipulative, often aggressive, and always vanity-driven behavior. The ego of the narcissist is extremely fragile because in reality, they live with crippling insecurity. It’s so bad, they have to tear other people down to boost themselves up.

Often, people don’t understand how you ever got to be with someone who treated you like that. They judge you for not acting soon enough, but what they don’t understand is that the psychopathic narcissist wasn’t always like that. In the beginning, they were charming, supportive, admiring, and loving. You think you’ve hit the jackpot with a loving partner, only to find that it was all a grand illusion. Hidden behind that mask of love was an ugly monster.

If you managed to end this relationship, then this article will help you recover.

After experiencing a relationship with a narcissist, I wrote more than one book about it. In this article, information from my book «My Toxic Husband». I’m a psychologist-psychotherapist and I’ll ne glad to help you with your relationship. You can book a short meeting with me here.




Certified Psychotherapist, Relationship coach and Author. Ukrainian

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Elena Miro

Certified Psychotherapist, Relationship coach and Author. Ukrainian