How Do You Know They’re a Narcissist?

Typically, by the time the change in their attitude happens, you’re in deep. You’ve been thoroughly impressed by them, whether it’s a romantic or professional relationship. They start off great, but then they change. Suddenly, you realize all they really want to talk about is themselves, and no matter the conversation you’re having, they always steer it back to something having to do with their life.

You’ve just told them you have cancer, and they start talking about their new car. You’re breaking up with your spouse? They’ll be happy to tell you all about how they just met the man or woman of their dreams. And they will expect that you will be happy for them and admire their charm. If you don’t respond in the way they believe you should, you’ll soon find yourself on the business end of their narcissistic rage.

Their rage is sudden, harsh, and loud. They have no compunctions about dressing you down in public either, and they can go from someone who seemed to be so caring and kind to someone who is ice cold in an instant. It’s genuinely startling to witness the change that occurs. I ran into that with my ex-husband. He would be fine one minute, and then just start berating me the next. Though you might initially resist believing there is something really wrong, or that they have some kind of personality disorder, you’ll soon witness more symptoms that will convince you that they are a narcissist. Here are several things you’ll likely see in their behavior:

  • Name-dropping: They like to emphasize their importance, and to do that, they will drop the names of people who are famous or well-known in their field. They get a large boost of self-esteem from being associated with people they think are important, and they will let you know of the association so you can admire them accordingly. If you fail to do so, you will likely be ridiculed and devalued.

At first, it’s hard for you to think that the person next to you can be a narcissist. It happened to me too. I recommend you read my book „What Narcissists Don’t Want You To Know“, there is more about my experience and more about narcissism. Also if you need psychological help, I invite you to my consultation-acquaintance at the price of a cup of coffee.

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Certified Psychotherapist, Relationship coach and Author. Ukrainian

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Elena Miro

Certified Psychotherapist, Relationship coach and Author. Ukrainian